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Lack versus Abundance—Seeing the Big Picture
how our experience of lack is what makes our experience of abundance so unique.
The first thing to understand about abundance is that—in the way we typically think of it—it is an experience that is particular to being an individual. There are infinite versions of abundance (which are experienced across infinite realities), but what we may think of as an experience of “complete” abundance is actually an experience that births from—and stands in relation to—our experience of lack.
Because your spirit does not experience lack, it is therefore incapable of experiencing abundance in the way you do.
From the perspective of your spirit, the state of abundance is just “how it always is” and to live within that state is very different from experiencing abundance in embodied form. This is because—except through you in human form—your spirit does not know what it is like to be disconnected from the experience of abundance through an experience of lack.
Your spirit lives in a state we would call “pure abundance”, but to your spirit this is just the unquestioned freedom to create what it wants to create. There is no way for your spirit to experience any difference between freedom and abundance in the way we do because it cannot experience lack. Therefore, what we call “the state of abundance” is actually “the state of freedom” as viewed through the polarized lens of lack versus abundance—with lack being experienced through the outer definition of not having or not being able.
What makes the human experience of abundance so particular and unique is therefore not what the abundant state looks like (because it looks like freedom which is a universal experience), instead, it is the experience of abundance in relation to our human experience of lack that makes it so unique.
Your personal experience of lack makes your experience of abundance unique.
We are each spirit in human form. In this, our consciousness is eternal, but our experience of physicality is temporary. This means that when we are embodied, we experience ourselves as mortal, but between lives we experience ourselves as immortal. So, physicality and its potential to express the experience of physical lack through “not having / possessing” is not what we are, it is an experience we are temporarily choosing to have. Therefore, you are a pure state of freedom that is temporarily choosing to experience lack and limitation.
Your experiences of lack and limitation are not what you are; they are a choice you are freely making.
To see this perspective is to begin to untangle yourself from the negative ideas you may have absorbed and internalized due to your experiences of lack which you have subconsciously concluded are a reflection of how you are somehow lacking on a spiritual—by which I mean fundamental—level.
None of us are—or can be—lacking on a spiritual level because our spirits live in a state of pure freedom.
ALTERNATE perspective: You could even say the opposite is true. It is only souls / spirits that have deeply explored being mortal who enter into states of reality where lack can be so acutely felt. There are an infinite number of less extreme / polarized / contrasted realities through which life can be experienced. No spirit becomes human before exploring these less intense experiences of physicality. So not only is no one “spiritually lacking”, we are all “spiritual masters” to even be in this kind of reality where we can temporarily get lost in, or blinded by, our experiences of lack.
With this understood, what is seen is that although one of the biggest spiritual realizations is that your personal space-time reality is a reflection of you, the experience of lack is not reflecting that you are “spiritually lacking”, it is reflecting the accumulation of belief that you are lacking. Therefore…
If you are experiencing lack, it is not because you are spiritually lacking, it is because you are carrying a belief that you are lacking.
I want to highlight here that this does not only apply to a lack of money. The belief in lack concerns any quality you believe you may be lacking in whether that be health, kindness, spiritual awareness, or your physical accommodation.
To see that the experience of lack is a choice, rather than a result of some deficiency within you, is to start to see the experience of lack in the same way as your spirit. This is to have further integrated your spirit’s experience with your own, which is to further know that you are your spirit in human form—as opposed to seeing your spirit as separate from what you are. With this knowing, you can then begin to untangle yourself from the negative beliefs that have arisen through the feelings of lack you have naturally and understandably (meaning there has been no mistake) accumulated across your life.
To see that your spirit is not lacking is to stop using ideas of what you do or do not physically possess as indicators of who or what you are. Instead, they are seen as challenges you have created for yourself to overcome / transform. This immediately gives rise to the question, “Well, if my spirit is free to create, then why don’t I just create experiences of abundance? Why would I ever create an experience of lack?”
The answer to this question is, at its heart, the same answer to the question of why we would choose to be mortal, limited, or in pain. So, understand that this realization goes far beyond becoming abundant. It answers nearly all the big “Why would we choose this?!?” questions that arise on the spiritual path.
The big realization is that the abundance we seek to experience in human form exists in relation to our experience of lack. It does not—and cannot—standalone because one of the biggest qualities of being human is how our experiences exist in relation to each other.
As Einstein famously said, “everything is relative!”
Therefore, the experiences of lack we bemoan, feel defeated by, and generally label as “the problem” are in fact you creating the shadow-side of a powerful experience of abundance. Meaning, you cannot have an experience of human abundance without also having an experience of lack.
ELABORATION: Although someone who is born into wealth may derive a mental idea of being abundant by comparing themselves to the poverty and lack of freedoms of other people they see in the world, they do not experience the feeling of abundance in the same way that someone who comes from poverty and then attains wealth would.
So, although it may be nice to imagine being born wealthy, it comes with a huge shadow-side as, even though you will have your physical needs met, the emotional experience of that value is not available to you because you do not truly know what it feels like to be in lack (despite seeing it all over the media). For example, no amount of watching the TV Show Survivor ever prepares contestants for what it will feel like to experience being that tired and hungry.
So, if you are currently within an experience of lack—which may be a lack of money, friends, health, or freedom—then instead of seeing yourself as being in the “wrong” experience, see that you are creating the first half of an experience of overcoming lack because of how powerfully you will then experience the transformation of that lack.
The greatest experiences of abundance arise from the transformation of lack—and not through accumulation leading you to possess the most.
With this knowing, you will see through the illusion / mask / lie of any experience of lack that seems to tell you that you are not abundant. This occurs through seeing that those experiences of lack are you choosing to create an experience—that will include both positive and negative qualities—from the negative end first. This comes from your spirit’s desire to create a journey of transforming lack because it is one of the most potent experiences of abundance you can have.
We create the pain of lack in order to experience the joy of liberating ourselves from that lack.
In saying this, I understand the part of you that may feel uneasy about it. I remember when I started my spiritual journey, I wanted to believe that as eternal-consciousness in human form we had the power to be 100% abundant and 100% happy the whole time. And I didn’t like any spiritual teaching that implied otherwise. This is because I believed—and still do—that we each create our own reality.
So, if we each create our own reality, why can’t we just create continual wealth? What I am telling you is that you can do that—you can be born rich and stay wealthy all your life—BUT you can’t do that AND have the experience of transforming a lack of money into a lot of money (remembering this doesn’t only apply to wealth).
You can’t have it both ways, at the same time, within an experience of individuality.
ELABORATION: Or, more accurately: because your spirit is free to create anything, if your spirit wants to experience wealth AND the transformation of poverty into wealth at the same time, it would create TWO experiences of individuality. This shows how our spirit is not lacking in what it can create. It is just saying that within the experience of individuality you experience one quality at a time, instead of all at once like your spirit—that is the point of being an individual, so this isn’t a way in which individuality is lacking.
So, while embodied, you cannot know what it feels like to be gay and straight, black and white, or male and female at the same time. We wanted the human experience to be like this because to be human is to want to experience diversity in relation to your individuality.
If you are currently in hardship, you are free to convince yourself that you would, in fact, much rather be born wealthy—and there is nothing “wrong” in that type of thinking. However, from my perspective—and the way I interpret my own life even when it is tough to do so—because we each create our own reality, we are each experiencing what our spirit wants to experience through us—because we are our spirit. Therefore, if you “really” wanted to have been born wealthy, then that is what you would have done.
The power you have—right now in this moment—is to look at your life as a whole and see that whatever you are experiencing that you do not like is not the result of you, as a person, being in lack, it is the result of your spirit seeing the whole journey and understanding that if you experience lack at this time in your life, it will then evolve into some of the most fulfilling experiences of your life.
In this, it is important to see that those future experiences are not separate from the lack you are currently experiencing. This is because those experiences of abundance would not feel the way they are going to feel if you were not having your current experience of lack.
In this understanding, do not fall into the idea that you are choosing to suffer now in order to have joy later. To your spirit what you are calling “the low” and “the high” are not separate. They are two ends of one experience.
This is a subtle difference, because it is true that with experiences based in duality, you can’t have ups without downs. The nuance I want you to see is that from the wider perspective of your spirit, you are not choosing to have a negative day today in order to accumulate a positive day for the future.
To your spirit, every high is experienced in relation to its low in a way that makes them a single experience.
It is only in human form that we are able to chop up our journey into “good bits” versus “bad bits” and declare that one half of those experiences should be eradicated. From the level of spirit, that would be to declare half of yourself as inferior and deserving of extinction. To your spirit, this is like deciding that your right hand is “the good one” and your left hand is “the bad one”.
The above statement is one of the primary keys to abundance—namely, to embrace the whole of your journey (including the perceived highs and lows) as a reflection of coming to love your whole self (including the aspects you currently label as negative and which you feel need to be extinguished).
So, I encourage you to:
See yourself without fear or judgment in order to see yourself as you are, because all that we call lack is our own lack of understanding of our spirit’s perspective and intention.
experience abundance by loving All-That-You-Are, because every aspect of your experience flows from the freedom of your spirit.
The Extraordinary Power of Accepting the Unacceptable
In the last article we explored how our spirit exists within a natural state of abundance that it simply knows as its freedom to create. This means our dualistic, embodied experience of abundance is not one that stands in isolation but is based upon experiencing that freedom to create in relation to the uniquely human experience of lack.
When we do not understand that the experience of abundance requires an experience of lack, then when we are lacking something—like money—we tend to conclude that we must in some way be personally lacking. We also usually fail to realize that most people who have been born into wealth do not feel that wealth as abundance (despite their bank balances, opulence, and the fact they are often waited upon). This combination of misunderstandings gives us a skewed belief that having money and feeling abundant are the same thing, when in fact they are far less connected than we realize.
By seeing the importance of the relationship between abundance and lack—instead of seeing abundance as separate from lack—you will naturally have a wider, more accepting view of your own experiences of lack. This allows you to embrace them as your creative choice (owning your experience) instead of rejecting them as being “lesser” experiences (rejecting your experience). This acceptance is an important step in further accepting (owning) the aspects of yourself that you may have previously judged to be “less than”.
In the embracing of the whole of your experience—instead of just the abundant bits—you will have a deeper experience of your own freedom to create (because you will not be rejecting a large part of what you are creating for yourself). This knowing of your own freedom to create is a feeling of abundance that is the closest experience—within embodiment—to how our spirit experiences abundance. While this does not make it “the best” way to experience abundance, it does naturally lead to the realization that:
To experience lack is to experience separation from the innate freedom of your spirit. The experience of lack is not however a “lesser” experience—or one to be extinguished—because it is what gives us the feeling of appreciation within the experience of wealth which is necessary for that wealth to be experienced as abundance.
To experience being embodied is to experience separation from the innate freedom of your spirit. The experience of physicality is not however a “lesser” experience because of how it gives your spirit a wider understanding—and hence appreciation—of the infinite nature of its freedom to be.
Now, if you are still feeling a discomfort in what I am saying, then I suggest this discomfort is probably because you are interpreting what I am saying as “you need to accept lack (and even pain and suffering) because it is what gives you an appreciation of wealth,” which can also be heard as, “you need to accept bad things you do not want because it is what gives you an appreciation of the good things you do want.”
Coming to understand that the “bad bits” (such as lack) are not a mistake but are in fact an important part of a larger whole, will elevate your experience of those “bits”.
So, although I am suggesting you embrace the difficult parts of your life (outward manifestations) and yourself (inward manifestations), what you will discover is that the very act of turning to embrace them—as opposed to resisting and seeking to extinguish them—will mean they are far less painful than they have ever been.
And here again, a resistance can come up because we say to ourselves, “I don’t want these bad bits to be acceptable to me because I do not want them in my life”. This feeling of resistance is you directly feeling your fear and the lack of acceptance it is based in. This is always based on some level of blindness (which always results in projection) as to what the reality of that acceptance would be.
To accept something does not mean you are committing to continue experiencing it.
This fear of accepting what we do not like comes from the idea we must resist what we do not like in order to exert a control over it (in order to limit or extinguish it). This is what causes people who are in fear to be controlling and cruel and allows those who are not in fear to be allowing and accepting.
While it is true that if we are passionate about something, this passion leads us to experience more of it, the opposite is not true. If we are fearful and resistant to something, this does not lead us to experience less of it. This is a false conclusion based on only understanding half of the principle of the law-of-attraction.
ELABORATION: This common false conclusion is not a mistake or fault in the human psyche. Instead, it is a part of what allows our dualistic nature to be magnified, thereby making the human experience one of the most contrasting experiences available.
The law-of-attraction is not only saying that you will create more of whatever you focus your love, allowance, and acceptance upon; it is saying you will create more of what you focus on regardless of whether that focus is one of allowance or resistance.
This is why we attract what we fear just as much—if not more—than what we are passionate about. This is not because fear is a stronger force than love and passion, but because we tend to give much more “mental air time” (and therefore focus) to our fearful thoughts than our joyful ones.
Our spirits exist outside duality. They are therefore not capable of experiencing a “negative side” or saying “no”. This means that saying you DO NOT want to experience something is the same as saying you DO want to experience it (because the NOT is irrelevant).
To fear or love something is to feel strong emotion about it, which in turn causes you to focus on it and therefore attract it. The only way to stop experiencing something is to have a neutral feeling towards it—which is usually through a feeling that there is nothing left to experience through it.
SIDE-NOTE: The word “indifference” is often used to express this neutrality; however, it should be noted that if a person says, “I am indifferent towards you” they are expressing a negative viewpoint because the act of focusing upon someone in order to express indifference is to not be indifferent. Indifference cannot be expressed, as it is the quality of not focusing on something because you do not perceive it possesses a level of meaning that is relevant to you.
The “real world” experience that this gives rise to is that the things we resist will stay as they are no matter how much we want them to change. This then causes us to create fantasies about how they could change. Every one of those fantasies, whether they come true in this life of not, are your conception of a potential experience that you are forever free to explore.
ELABORATION: Every human life is constantly birthing a myriad of probable experiences that then become available to be experienced. One of the most powerful visions I have ever had was in seeing the Earth as a womb from which infinite experiences were birthing and enriching the whole of consciousness / creation.
The greatest value of the state of lack is not only in how it causes us to appreciate our freedoms, but because of how it causes us to fantasize and imagine a life beyond what we currently know.
Our imagination is one of the clearest aspects of our consciousness in terms of its ability to access, express, and communicate the reality—including the state of perception—of our spirit. What we experience as our “playful imagination” is what our spirit experiences as traversing the infinite possibilities of reality. Every fantasy you have while embodied is a “real” potential to your spirit. This is because, in terms of consciousness:
ELABORATION: It is not that your spirit is denied access before this, it is simply that you cannot access anything you do not have a conception of. To book a trip, you must know where you want to travel to—and human realities are best conceived of from within human form.
So, we spend time in lack, not only because it leads us to a far deeper appreciation of wealth and freedom, but because of how, when in lack, we dream of new ways of being, new paths, and new potentials. But we are not here to only dream. We are here to live those dreams. This is why both states are so important. The dreaming of dreams, and the living of those dreams, are both necessary parts of the experience.
We will always move between experiences of lack and experiences of abundance because it is like breathing in and out.
lack and abundance, allowance and resistance, creation and destruction, the breath in and the breath out, male and female, gay and straight, black and white, able and disabled, healthy and ill, night and day, and summer and winter will always coexist as they are a part of creating the experience of each other.
As beautiful as holding this wide vision of the cycle of life is, I want you to know it has a solid “real world” payoff. But to receive this payoff, you will need to hold what I am about to tell you in your awareness of daily life such that you can elevate how you perceive, interpret, and react to your experience by making it more inclusive and allowing.
The huge imbalance we are currently experiencing in this world (concerning lack and abundance) is caused by the majority of people being in fear—which activates our primitive survival-instinct. This is to be in a near permanent state of fear which becomes magnified when it becomes an entrenched state of resistance. This is what causes the cycle of lack and abundance to become heavily lopsided, because the abundant bit is embraced and allowed (causing it to flow freely and quickly) while the lack bit is rejected and resisted (causing it to stall and be held onto through your judgment / rejection of it).
With so many people doing this, the outward appearance of the world is one where the majority are experiencing lack, and few are experiencing abundance. The realization of seeing the whole cycle of lack and abundance changes this imbalance within you because you cease to judge and resist the experiences of lack which not only stops them being as intense as they are, but they also pass more quickly.
QUOTE: I don’t know who said this originally, but one of my favorite sayings is that “everything passes”, with the wider understanding being that this isn’t just talking about bad things. Good or bad, everything passes. This conveys the acceptance of the cyclical nature of life.
accepting your own experiences of lack can at first feel like you are being asked to bite down on a bullet; this is because you are being asked to accept something you have previously only ever found painful to experience. But what you will discover is that as you find the courage to bite that bullet—which is to face your fear of pain—you will find the experience of lack is much less painful because you are no longer resisting it, judging it to be a mistake, or interpreting it as a sign of your own deficiency (lacking).
This creates what feels to be the Cosmic Catch 22 of the human experience. You have to accept what you find unacceptable in order to transform your experience of it into one that is acceptable. So, in the moment you accept something, you will find that it is no longer hard to accept because it will no longer be painful.
This is the shocking realization that our pain—which we have felt to be caused by our experience of lack—is, in fact, the result of how we have resisted the experience (rather than being an unavoidable part of it). This is the same as seeing how the lack part of the cycle can be perceived as a noose being put around your neck, but not tightened. If you stay relaxed, you can go through the challenging part of the cycle without pain. But if you go into fear, you are likely to start feeling strangled by the experience—with your fear-based efforts to break free only tightening its grip.
As profound and life-changing as this realization is, it is important to know it isn’t a cure all. This is because there is a big difference between having this mental knowing now (when you are open and simultaneously holding a wide number of perspectives by reading this article) and applying it when you are in a state of fear, resistance, and judgment.
You can mentally know you shouldn’t run from a bear, but that doesn’t mean you won’t find your legs running as fast as they can if a bear surprises you in the woods.
To learn not to struggle or panic when you are stood in a noose is an art that takes practice—and it starts with recognizing the presence of the noose. This is the first step and should not be underestimated how powerful it is. You are more than half way there if you have the awareness that there is a noose around your neck because next you will see that you have put the noose there through your own fear and judgment leading you to label something—such as the state of lack or a bad thing that must be fought against.
With the mental fears that define your personal noose identified, it then takes practice (as you learn to recognize and calm your fearful impulses to “save yourself like your life depends of it”) to instead observe your situation from a perspective of how can you best accept and allow your current experience such that it will reveal its message to you. Once you have done this, you can move on—instead of resisting and entrenching it.
So, I encourage you to not just visit these ideas when you are reading these articles, but to hold the ideas with you so you can apply while choosing how to interpret and react to experiences of lack—or any of the shadow-sides of the many qualities to which we assign significant weight within the human experience.
embrace All-That-You-Are to discover the joy of abundance.
Don’t Just React To Your Life—Create It!
In today’s article (the third in the series on abundance) we will explore how to stop reacting to experiences of lack from a fear-based position, as this is what breaks the cycle of fear-based negativity that lies at the heart of our deepest experiences of lack and low self-esteem.
We have seen that to break out of a cycle of lack and abundance you must embrace the whole of the cycle, as when we resist the “down” part we step out of our natural state of allowance and effectively apply our brakes through the feeling of resistance. This causes us to remain in a state of lack instead of passing through it.
abundance is not something you can only experience when things are going well. There is a deeper experience of our inherently abundant nature where you experience your abundance continuously—instead of only through the “up” part of the cycle. This happens when you no longer experience the “down” part through a sense of fear or negativity.
In talking about breaking out of the cycle of negativity, it is important to know I am not talking about ending the cycle of lack and abundance (as that is an eternal cycle just like the seasons). The cycle I am talking about breaking out of is the cycle of negative, fear-based perception through which we experience lack as something far worse and more painful than it is. This is to see the lack part of the cycle in a similar way to how we view the winter or the night—by not seeing the times when we are outwardly less productive as something to be feared or as a mistake we need to avoid.
When we view an experience of lack with a catastrophic mindset, we live within a catastrophe. When we view it as a natural part of an eternal cycle, we can then use it to rest, reflect, and reorient ourselves before we embark on the action and excitement of the abundant part of the cycle.
perceiving something you do not fully understand as negative in a way that leads you to conclude it needs to be feared and avoided.
reacting to an experience in a negative and fearful way (such as becoming angry or hostile) which creates a new negative experience of it.
using that negative experience to further entrench the belief that the thing itself is negative and needs to be feared and avoided (instead of seeing how the negative experience is birthing from your fearful reaction).
Breaking this cycle is not therefore about never experiencing lack; it is about understanding that lack can be perceived in a way that—even though you probably won’t call it positive—is not negative or painful and does not provoke a fear-based reaction. This then allows you to embrace both sides of the cycle of lack and abundance which is to step out of perceiving that cycle—an intrinsic part of the human experience—in a polarized way.
This allows you to experience abundance in all things, instead of experiencing the world as split in two—with one half seen as good and “the other” as bad.
ELABORATION: Stepping out of polarized perception is the basis of spiritual awakening, as it is to perceive in the inclusive, non-polarizing way your spirit does. No longer seeing lack and abundance in a polarized way can only happen when perceiving the cycle in a polarized way has nothing left to teach us. This is because polarized perception is not a mistake; it is something we willingly take on because of the way in which it offers us new experiences through which we come to further know ourselves.
seeing through polarization is not some tricky concept to attain, it is the natural state of having walked the path of polarized perception for long enough. The polarization of our perception is therefore self-resolving.
This is the same as the realization that there is no jeopardy around humanity “spiritually awakening”, as awakening is the natural and inevitable result of sleeping. This is to understand spiritual awakening as seeing through the illusion of the negatively charged, fear-based polarization which causes us to believe in separation (whether that be separation from each other, separation from your natural state of abundance, or separation from the infinite freedom and creative power of your spirit).
I will be writing more about focusing and magnifying the “up” part in order to better manifest your innate abundance as this series on abundance continues, but the deepest understanding of abundance is that you are already—inherently—infinitely abundant. This means any perceived “work” to be done to move beyond an experience of lack is about identifying and transforming the ways in which you are applying the brakes (resisting) or allowing your fears to stop you seeing the path of least resistance (being blinded by fear).
Because you are infinitely strong, if you are feeling blocked, the only person powerful, fast, and knowing enough to block you is you.
Because you are infinitely free / abundant, if you are feeling lack, the only person powerful, fast, and knowing enough to hide your abundance from you is you.
This is to know yourself as the empowered creator of your negative experiences—who is choosing the experience you are creating—as opposed to seeing yourself as a victim whose only course of action is to react in opposition to the aspects of your experience you do not like.
This empowers you to change your experience of lack by no longer fighting it as if it were your enemy.
This is to effectively defang the demon of lack at which point it is discovered to not be as frightening as you first thought and, even though you will still have experiences that reflect your fears, by not fearing—and thereby negatively charging—those experiences, they are no longer felt to be negative. This then allows you to stop fearing them and thereby exit the cycle of negative reaction.
By not experiencing lack to be unacceptably negative, you free yourself from endlessly enduring your own negative reaction to it.
This release from negative reactions is how you break the cycle—whether that be a cycle of lack, negativity, pain, or fear.
ELABORATION: I think it is helpful to keep relating this realization to its spiritual underpinning. As humans, we have polarized perception which—instead of seeing the neutrality and equality of all things—causes us to see things as either attractive or repulsive. We have then accumulated attractive and repulsive experiences through which we have labelled the contents and experiences of the world as either good or bad.
What we have explored in these articles so far is the process of stepping out of the polarization by seeing that lack is not as different from abundance as we may have imagined. We see this when we no longer experience lack through the negative charge of our fearful and resistant beliefs.
We are now exploring the deeper, continual level of abundance that is available when you stop perceiving—and thereby reacting to—the world through a polarized judgment of it. This is to see through the illusion that abundance and lack are different / separate in a way that means lack is something that needs to be feared.
Your inherent freedom and abundance is always there for you to draw on. It is an endless, infinite, abundant source of energy. The reason our connection with our infinite and eternal nature (spirit) feels like it can be turned on and off is because of how we can become mesmerized by our human experience which can inadvertently lead us to close down our own connection (although in actuality we can only heavily attenuate it).
This is never because we are “weak” or “fallen sinners” but because the human experience was designed to mesmerize us.
However, this mesmerization—like all things within the human experience—has become polarized. On the one side it can be experienced through a passion for life that holds (attracts) your human experience intimately to you, while on the other, your fear of life you can hold it to you through an endless cycle of negatively / fearfully reacting it. The delusion of this is believing that to reject something is to repel it—when in fact ALL focus is attractive (even if it comes from focusing on how repellent something feels).
Because of the creation Catch 22—where you have to stop fearing or rejecting something in order to discover why you do not need to fear or reject it—it is not possible to just stop feeling fear because of how it has become a conditioned response based on experience.
Where you have the most power to intervene in the repeating cycle of fear-based negativity is when you react to your feeling of fear.
The only way to stop reacting is to see through the illusions / delusions that your fears are based on. Through this process, you will identify the negative, fear-based, divisive beliefs you were carrying that made it feel so important to react in the way you did. To see through the lie of those beliefs is to permanently alter the flow of your cycle of negative reaction.
This is to see that negative manifestations—such as an acutely limiting experience of lack—are not reflecting that you are lacking as a person, they are reflecting your lack of trust in what you inherently are, which is the same as saying…
lack is a reflection of your fear of what you are. This manifests as a fear of what will happen if you just let go and “be yourself”.
fear magnifies polarization and causes us to doubt human nature. All that we call “bad” or “evil” within people is their own fear of not only what is within themselves, but also what it is to be human. This is the same fear within each of us, and when we feel its charge, we impulsively react in fear-based ways that are controlling and divisive.
In a fear-based reactive existence, your feeling of happiness, freedom, and abundance are all dependent on what you are experiencing. This is to be trapped within an experience of your outward reality being the determining factor in your feelings of happiness and abundance. This leaves you feeling that “when good things happen, I feel better and when bad things happen, I do feel bad”. This is to view yourself as a victim of your circumstances rather than as the creator of them.
By knowing we are not a victim of our circumstances, we find the courage to “own” our experiences in a way that allows us to not fear them and thereby not negatively react to them.
The human experience was designed to mesmerize us such that we could “seemingly” get lost in it—including getting lost in the illusion of lack. This means that being lost, fearful, or in lack is not a mistake and does not indicate anything negative about you as a person or “how you are doing” within the human experience. This is because we are all doing what we came to do, so everything is perfect in that regard.
There is nothing to fear because the fear we express as polarized perception is self-resolving (which is to say that fear is self-resolving). This is because fear is also self-perpetuating in how it causes us to focus on what we fear until we see through the delusion that is causing us to fear it.
With the knowing you have done nothing wrong and are not personally lacking because you sometimes experience lack, you can then meet your experiences of lack through an empowered vantage point instead of seeing yourself as a victim of them.
It is this knowing—that I encourage you to personalize by expressing it in your own words—that you must hold in your awareness in the moment when the fear of lack arises within you and you feel yourself start to react to it negatively.
You will experience the breaking of the cycle as some level of instruction to yourself that you no longer need to fear the fear you are feeling.
“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past, I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone, there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”