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Love Your Joys Instead Of Focusing On Your Fears
What the spiritual masters have learnt is how we perceive is not only a choice; it is a creative act.
The quickest, simplest, and most effective way to make your reality feel better is to view it from a positive feeling perspective, rather than a negative feeling one. Though this technique is simple to understand, it is not simple to implement. This is because you must face the part of your belief-system that has been trained to be a subjugated realist rather than an empowered creator. To start perceiving from the positive is a life-changing shift.
“I choose to always hold a positive perspective on whatever I am experiencing. This does not prevent me from perceiving the negative.”
A positive shift in perception is not simply about looking for what is pleasing instead of what is displeasing. It is not a surface level shift to “looking on the bright side”. For someone who has lived within a negative perspective, a shift to positively orientated perception is to redefine what they have known themselves to be. Instead of changing your reality because of where you look, in today’s article we are exploring changing how you look.
A life-changing shift occurs when you start making your choices from the perspective of choosing joy (which is to follow your heart), instead of coming from a mental idea of pain avoidance. This is the same as saying love peace rather than hate war. It carries the same dynamic of loving what you want rather than hating what you fear. This may sound easy because it sounds like what everyone wants. However, we have each experienced pains that have left us wounded and these wounds shout at us to avoid pain with far more ferocity than they tell us to find love.
To make the necessary shift to choosing from the feeling of joy, you must resolve your judgments of whatever it is you have blamed for causing your wounds. As long as you fear what has hurt you, your mind will devote its resources to avoiding it. If you can free yourself from your judgment of what has hurt you, it will transform your reality. This is because you will be defining your own beliefs about your life from a joy-based outlook (instead of defining yourself by what you are against).
You will never be happy in a sustained way as long as you define yourself by what brings you pain rather than what brings you joy. It is important to understand this is not about denying negativity (which is to be in fear of it) as there is value in the experience of everything you have created.
allow yourself to feel your wounds such that you can hear their message and release them. However, in the allowance of your pain, be conscious not to elongate that pain into suffering by coming to define yourself by it. By looking at what may initially feel to be negative from a positive perspective, you have the power to transform your experience of it. This ability represents freedom from fear of the negative—an incredible liberation of self.
know that this process of transforming your pain can be a beautiful experience (even with you feeling the pain once more in order to transform it). It is only when you either come to define yourself by that pain (or become attached to it from the desire of expressing the victim role) that pain becomes entrenched as suffering. Guilt and shame create beliefs that elongate pain into suffering. Look at your beliefs about any pain that you feel. Are these beliefs aiding the release of your pain or holding it to you?
love and anger are not incompatible. Angry feelings can be expressed in love. Allow yourself to express any anger you feel in order to assert, experience, and understand your own boundaries. See how they create your feeling of self.
If you feel your pain as anger, express it as anger. Know wherever that anger takes you, and maybe another, is where you are both choosing to be. To judge your own anger is to deny the experience you have chosen. It is to deny a part of yourself and live in separation. You must know your anger to change it. Anger need not attack but, even if it does, even if that is how it bursts out, have faith in yourself that you are creating an experience that will benefit all involved. Trust in, rather than judge, the expression of your life.
logic tells us that changing the orientation of our perspective does not change our outer reality, only our perception of it. It tells us that focusing less on the negative-viewpoint is a state of denial, rather than empowerment. This is what I say to the rationalist within you…
I am not asking you to blindly believe in something. I am asking you to put the logic of your mind to the side so you can carry out an experiment with an open mind. Only you can prove the benefits of what I am telling you by challenging the validity of your logic and choosing to take a positive perspective for a sustained period of time. Do this to observe whether a positive shift in perspective affects your life in a way that you find pleasing and worthy of continuing.
Be open to the “magic” that unfolds when you shift to a more positive-focus. The term “magic” here being the name for what we have yet to understand on a mental level. One of the most profound effects of shifting your perspective in this way is that by no longer defining yourself by pain avoidance you will realize you are not your pain. Instead, you will realize your pain is a part of your exploration of self.
By not defining yourself from pain you will know that what you fundamentally are is abundant freedom (as opposed to pain, lack, and limitation). Therefore, by focusing on the love and freedom that you are (rather than pain that need not define you), you will naturally resolve that pain by seeing the beauty of your own essential nature that continues to exist beneath the emotional burdens you carry.
Our pain, and the journey of its resolution, is not some by-product of being in human form. It is the journey of self-exploration we have each chosen in the choice to be eternal-consciousness birthing in individual / mortal form. Through this understanding you can transform your relationship with pain.
Instead of seeing the experience of pain as a mistake, or a sign you are failing, see it as an infinitely wise choice that you are making. You will be amazed at how much more joy you will feel through the process of accepting your pain instead of constantly battling to be free of it.
Perceiving from the Positive
“I choose to maintain a positive perspective on whatever I am experiencing.”
Make your choices from the perspective of choosing joy as opposed to coming from a place of pain avoidance. This is the same as saying love peace—rather than hate war. If you can free yourself from judgment enough to do this, it will transform your experience of reality (because you will be defining it from a positive—rather than fear-based—outlook).
This standpoint is not about denying negativity—as that is to be in fear of it. There is value in the experience of everything you have created. By looking at what may initially feel to be negative from a positive perspective, you will transform your experience of it. This ability is incredibly liberating as it represents the empowered choice to free yourself from fear of the negative.
allow yourself to feel your pain such that you can hear its message and release it. However, while allowing your pain, be conscious to not elongate it into suffering by coming to define yourself by it. Though your pain reflects what you are currently experiencing, you are only defined by that pain if you choose to make its existence a part of your self-identity.
Do not identify who you fundamentally are with your wounds. Allow your pain, forgive yourself for creating whatever experience led to it, and release it into transformation. This can be a beautiful experience of release / putting down baggage. It is only when you either come to define yourself by that pain, or become attached to it from the desire of expressing the victim role, that pain becomes entrenched as suffering.
guilt and shame create beliefs that elongate pain into suffering. Look at your beliefs about any pain you are feeling to see if those beliefs are aiding the release of your pain, or holding it to you.
If you feel your pain as anger, express it as anger. Know that wherever anger takes you—or someone else—is where you are both choosing to be. To judge your own anger is to deny the experience you have chosen. It is to deny a part of yourself and live in separation from All-That-You-Are.
love and anger are not incompatible. Angry feelings can be expressed in love. Allow yourself to express any anger you feel in order to assert, experience, and understand your own boundaries—as well as how they create your feeling of self. Anger does not need to attack, but even if it does, even if that is how it bursts out, have faith in yourself that you are creating an experience for the benefit of all involved. Trust in—rather than judge—the expression of your life.